Be Fun To Be Around!

When you were single and dating, it's probable that you spent at least a fair amount of effort towards being likable--in other words, wanting to be liked. After all, most people desire to be chosen by someone else as a good friend or as a dating companion. So why stop all that merriment just because you got married? That's no fun at all! I hate to be blunt, but it's a shame that so many spouses are simply not enjoyable to be around--and that's a problem that you can take responsibility for. Frankly, it's not good for society when we are generating unlikable people. Do your part. Be likable!

Most people don't want to stay in long-term friendships with people who are full of negative energy. It's a drain to be with someone who's critical, or unhappy, or bored. Do what you can to make your permanent lifelong relationship a fun one! It will make the ride go better, I can assure you. If you need help with this subject, let us know. Lighten up, get loose, be free. Spend some time reading the book of Philippians in the New Testament (small book; four short chapters). Or invest some time into helping someone else. That's about the best remedy I know for getting out of a self-centered negative mindset.

If there are stressors or factors in your life that are keeping you from having fun in your life, take time to talk those things out with a counselor or a pastor. Or it might even be a good idea to see your doctor for a checkup. But do what you can to be a positive person. Try your best to be someone that your spouse would choose as a good friend....if you're not that person already! Be kind, be spontaneous, be adventurous, be fun to be with. Do you remember how excited you would get as a kid waiting for your best friend to come over to spend the night? How much more fun is it when that best friend is your spouse! Make your time spent together worthwhile and enjoy one another.