Most of us over forty know the classic line from the 1970 movie Love Story:
"Love means never having to say you're sorry!"
Well, as Ryan O'Neal said himself in the screwball comedy What's Up Doc? two years later:
"That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard!"
I don't think I have to spend too much time waxing on about this particular topic. Bottom line is this: if you've had a recent (or even not-so-recent) argument with your spouse....and you know you're wrong.....just say "I'm sorry" and end the thing! Even though you can't control someone else's response to your apology (that's a different subject altogether), at the very least you yourself will no longer be carrying around foolish pride, anger, pain, self-justification, alienation and all of those other impossible burdens that we place on ourselves when refuse to admit we're wrong. As one sage said, "In marriage, you can be right....or you can be happy!"
Letting go of having to "be right" all the time will probably increase the days of your life, too--certainly the quality of your life. And, most likely, you will be moving your marriage in a positive direction...back toward close togetherness again with the one you love--which was, hopefully, the reason you got married in the first place.
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